Why Self Esteem? “Self-esteem is not the only determinant of happiness. Certainly, it is one of the most important” (Schiraldi, 2001). 

Self-esteem can contribute to better mental health and physical health while self-dislike can lead to increased anxiety, depression, addictions, unhappy relationships, poor performance and other undesired or maladaptive (dysfunctional/non-productive) behaviors. “No wonder self-dislike is called the invisible handicap.” (Schiraldi, 2001). 

In 1992 Gallup survey, 89 percent of respondents said that self-esteem is very important in motivating a person to work and to succeed, as well as engage in increased healthy behaviors. Those with higher sense of self-esteem tend to be more-friendly, less discouraged with criticism or internal issues, more active, more trusting of self and others, and more proactive and open to help when distressed (Schiraldi, 2001).

How would someone rate their self-esteem? Take a Self Esteem Check-up.

First rate from 0-10 how much you believe each of the following statements. 0 means you completely disbelieve it. 10 means you think it is completely true:

I am a worth-while person.

I am as valuable as a person as anyone else.

I have the qualities I need to live well.

When I look into my eyes in the mirror I have a pleasant feeling

I don’t feel like an overall failure.

I can laugh at myself.

I am happy to be me.

I like myself.

Next, Rate your self-esteem on the following scales: 0 (total lack of self-esteem) 100 (total fullness of self esteem)

How often do you feel restricted in your daily activities because of difficulties with self-esteem?

1. Always
2. Often
3. Sometimes
4. Rarely
5. Never

How serious is your problem with self-esteem?

1. No problem  

    2. Mild Problem   

    3. Moderate Problem   

    4. Severe Problem

    5. Estremely Severe   

    6. Totally incapacitating

Concerned about your answers or would like to know more? There’s help.

Going deeper: Therapy for building self-esteem in Charlotte

Everyone generally has a some kind of self-esteem to build upon. Building or raising self-esteem can reduce symptoms of anxiety depression and hostility among adults. (Schiraldi & Brown, 2001, 2000). Furthermore, these principles and skills associated with building self-esteem can also be helpful for adolescents and children (Schiraldi & Brown, 2001, 2000). 

Therapy can be a helpful way to explore your self-esteem and learn more about yourself and how to build your own self-esteem. Learning how to apply principles and skills to build your self-esteem, in a safe setting, can be a worthwhile and lasting investment.

I have worked with many adults and adolescents struggling with self-esteem along with symptoms of anxiety and depression; I would be honored to do deeper with you to explore and assist in this journey towards health and happiness. Visit www.bareitercc.com to learn more or call 704-334-0524 to make an appointment today.

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by Kara Watsom - Cuellar